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Table of Contents
New: Getting Help: Peggy's Recommendations
1. Choosing The Appropriate Level of Care For Addiction Treatment
2. Continuing Care As Part of A Continuum of Care for Addiction Recovery
3. How to Find An Outpatient Counselor
4. 8 Really Good Reasons You Need To Be Involved in Your Family Member's Addiction Treatment
5. Family Dynamics of Addiction and Recovery - 12 Do's and Don'ts For The Family While the Alcoholic is in Rehab
6. Family Dynamics of Addiction and Recovery - Treatment For Spouses and Other Family Members
Getting Help: Peggy's Recommendations
By Peggy L. Ferguson, Ph.D.
While the question, "where should I go for help" may seem like a simple question, the answer is anything but simple. I receive a lot of requests for recommendations for counselors, treatment centers, and other programs. I can certainly make recommendations regarding nationally known and recognized inpatient programs, but I am not familiar with individual outpatient providers across the country, and generally do not know enough information about local programs to make a recomendation or a critique of them.
A tip for finding an outpatient therapist would be to go to either a National provider database, like the Psychology Today website or to go to your state's licensure/certification board's provider list. This, of course, implies that you know what kind of licensed or certified professional that you need for your issues. There are many to choose from: Licensed Alchol/Drug Counselor , Licensed Clinical Social Worker, Licensed Marriage/Family Therapist, Licensed Professional Counselor, Licensed Psychologists, and Licensed Psychiatrists. The names for these various helpers even vary from state to state.
There is also a national database of Alcohol/Drug Programs provided by SAMHSA, but it seems to only have programs that are non-profit or receive state funding. There are many other private for profit facilities and outpatient therapists in the country that are providing excellent care. Some of these facilities maintain a nationwide outpatient provider list , so that they can refer patients leaving treatment to continuing care providers. These outpatient providers are also typically qualified for working with patients at most stages of recovery. Example: For sexual addiction outpatient counseling you might ask The Meadows in Wickenburg
My InPatient Chemical Dependency Treatment Center Recommendations are:
(Not in rank order)
The Meadows
Sierra Tuscon
Valley Hope Treatment Centers
Hazelden (Minnesota)
For Impaired Professionals:
Talbott Recovery Campus
For Long Term InPatient Treatment: (90 day minimum)
Clay Crossing -
Keep in mind that it is appropriate to match the treatment facility to the level and type of care needed by the patient. For sexual addiction, I believe the mosts beneficial treatment is provided by people who specialize in addiction. For addiction, if the patient has already tried out patient counseling or has significant detox or other health issues, inpatient treatment is probably the most appropriate level of care. If there is a long standing history of significant mental health issues along with addiction, a dual diagnosis treatment center or outpatient program may be the most appropriate level of care. For opioid addiction or for patients who have been to several inpatient units, long term inpatient treatment may be the most appropriate level of care. These suggestions are very basic "rules of thumb" and most patients require an indepth assessment to determine the appropriate level of care.
Choosing the Appropriate Level of Care For Addiction Treatment
By Peggy L. Ferguson, Ph.D.
Addiction is treated on a continuum of care principle, with a variety of treatment options available. The overarching goals of alcoholism and other drug addiction treatment is the development of abstinence and relapse prevention. Treatment services for addiction can range from a brief intervention in a doctor's office to long term inpatient treatment. Each level of care has its strengths and benefits. Patients have the following treatment options available to them.
Treatment providers try to match the appropriate level of care to the particular needs of the patient. The type of care that an alcoholic or addict needs is identified by his or her particular needs. There is a standardized set of criteria for treatment at different levels of care, with levels of care escalating based on intensity and with the different levels of restriction.
1) Brief intervention. A family physician might intervene briefly by pointing out the negative health consequences of the patient's consumption of alcohol and/or other mood altering drugs. A brief intervention usually involves assessment and often assumes that "the problem" has not progressed to the point that a more in-depth and intensive treatment is warranted. Brief intervention often involves teaching about consequences of drinking or using other drugs and often attempts to motivate people who are not yet addicted to modify their consumption behavior before it becomes addiction. A DUI assessment and ADSAC class might be an example of a brief intervention. A brief educational intervention is usually not considered "treatment".
2) Outpatient Counseling. Outpatient counseling is one of the least restrictive forms of substance abuse treatment. Patients live at home, continue to go to work, or continue to maintain their normal responsibilities while attending individual or group counseling sessions. They receive an education about alcohol and/or other drugs, identify the impact of their misuse of the chemical on various aspects of their lives, learn abstinence skills, and begin to work through unresolved issues that may sabotage their continued abstinence. They could go to out patient counseling sessions once or twice a week. As an alternative, they could be involved in an intensive outpatient program where they may spend several hours a day, several days a week at the counseling offices. Some of the major advantages of outpatient counseling are that a) the expense tends to be less than inpatient treatment, and b) that they are able to employ the new abstinence skills in the "real world" as they develop those skills.
3) In-patient Treatment. In-patient treatment is provided in a residential care facility. Inpatient treatment can involve short term detox services, a 28 day (or longer) program, or long-term inpatient treatment program.
a) Detox programs. Short term inpatient detox facilities provide a supervised detox which includes 24 hour care, 7 days a week, individual and/or group education, brief counseling, and referral for continuing treatment. Patients may be referred to inpatient treatment or outpatient treatment services after being discharged. Detox, by itself, is generally insufficient for sustained abstinence.
b) Individualized, varying length of stay inpatient programs. Currently the trend and standard of care for inpatient programs involves individualized treatment based on a patient's unique needs. This involves somewhat of a flexible length of stay. The average length of stay at Valley Hope in Cushing, Oklahoma, an inpatient treatment facility is 24-25 days, says Mike Miller, Executive Director. Patients who need inpatient treatment tend to be those who may need assistance with detox, and who require more structure and intensity of services to assist them in maintaining abstinence than outpatient counseling provides.
Treatment services provided in inpatient programs generally include a multidisciplinary staff with medical care, education about addiction and recovery, individual and group counseling, family counseling, and "aftercare coordination". An inpatient level of care has additional structure and laser-like focus and support that may be necessary for development of early abstinence skills. Most inpatient treatment facilities also treat some of the more common mental health issues that alcoholics and addicts typically suffer from, such as depression and anxiety. There are also special "co-occurring" inpatient treatment centers that treat more serious mental health problems along with addiction concurrently.
4) Long term inpatient treatment programs. For those in need of a longer course of inpatient treatment, there are "long term" treatment facilities where the patients continue to live in the facility and do not go to work or go to school. They focus exclusively on their recovery. Jim Schmit, director at Clay Crossing, a long term inpatient treatment program in Maud, Oklahoma, indicated that typical treatment goals for long term treatment include a deeper acceptance of addiction and the development of a relapse prevention plan of action. He pointed out that patients also need to identify and develop a constructive use of leisure time, to develop a spiritual plan that enables them to achieve long term recovery, and to develop or improve their living skills. He indicated that the advantages of long-term care are that patients are assisted with handling post acute withdrawal symptoms, that they have the structure and support necessary over time to become comfortable with using their new recovery tools (including new coping skills), and that with continued focus on reducing the denial that comes with addiction and deepening their acceptance of addiction, that they have an opportunity to fulfill their commitment to recovery. Long term treatment is recommended for people who have been in inpatient treatment on more than one occasion and who have experienced chronic relapse in their efforts to remain clean and sober.
5. Half-way, three-quarter way houses are also considered long term treatment. They are residential programs where the alcoholic/addicts lives in, attends meetings, participates in counseling and other recovery activities, but also goes to work or to school, while in residence. The designation as a half-way or three quarter way house is based on the level of structure. An Oxford House is similar, but does not have professional counseling as part of the program. Residents attend AA or NA meetings and participate in house governance. Half-way, three-quarter, and Oxford House participation usually happens after inpatient (or outpatient) treatment. These long term supportive environments tend to focus on relapse prevention and development and practice of new living skills. Most treatment providers encourage active participation in 12 step recoveries, along with counseling or other professional services. Attendance and participation is usually encouraged from the beginning of treatment services and continued involvement at various stages of treatment is expected.
Like other chronic illnesses, addiction must be viewed and treated within a biological, social, psychological, and family context. Continuing care seeks to meet the needs for chronic illness. Many people at the beginning of recovery and in search of treatment services prefer to try the least restrictive level of care, outpatient counseling. When alcoholics or other addicts are being treated at one level of care, and they are not able to stay sober, then the next level of care is called for. Just as with diabetes, if your doctor recommends diet and exercise to get your blood sugar under control, and it those efforts are insufficient for the desired outcome, the next level of care or treatment is called for. If you are not able to stay sober in outpatient counseling, it is time to go to inpatient counseling. When you have been to inpatient treatment, followed by outpatient counseling and you keep relapsing, the most appropriate level of care is probably long term inpatient treatment, followed by outpatient counseling.
Twelve step recovery should be a continuing part of recovery efforts from the beginning. Treatment choices should be based on individual need, driven by continuous assessment. Choosing the most appropriate level of care every step along the way to recovery, will help maximize the effectiveness of your efforts.
By Peggy L. Ferguson, Ph.D.
It is generally acknowledged and accepted that addiction is best treated from a continuum of care framework. A continuum of care is a treatment concept that includes a stage of treatment called continuing care. What is treatment for addiction? Many people think of treatment as a place, a pill, a kind of therapy, or a religion. In reality, "treatment" is a set of therapeutic services.
The course of addiction treatment starts with stabilization or "acute care". It is in this stage of addiction treatment that detox occurs. Detox is the process where the body is allowed to remove its toxins through abstaining from ingesting any more mood/mind altering drugs. Sometimes, in order to avoid possible catastrophic physical complications, another similar drug or the original drug of choice is administered in diminishing dosages over a brief period of time.
During the treatment process, the newly sober alcoholic/addict begins to learn the skills necessary to withstand cravings, remain abstinent, and change their behavior. They work on accepting the disease, learning how to stay abstinent in the face of life challenges. They work on learning new living skills, such as managing and communicating feelings appropriately, reducing stress, dealing with conflicts, and improving self confidence. An overarching goal of the recovery process and the stages of treatment is to return to full functioning in all areas of the person's life. After a primary treatment experience, inpatient or outpatient, they move in to a next stage. Aftercare has been used to make the transition from a more structured level of care to maintain continuing abstinence in an environment where alcohol and drugs abound, where cues from cravings are ever present. It also usually involves providing support and encouragement for staying in AA/NA.
It might involve outpatient counseling, AA, or a formal aftercare program. It involves learning, practicing, and reinforcing the skills learned to maintain changes in behavior. The roles that the chemical once played are replaced with new healthy living skills. Continuing care can focus on preventing relapse, and encouraging the alcoholic addict to stay committed to and engaged in ongoing recovery efforts.
Continuing care for addiction is very important because of the nature of addiction. Addiction is a chronic disease characterized by relapse. Most people leaving acute care settings are precariously perched somewhere between continued recovery and relapse. Recovering addicts not in some form of treatment are at an extremely high risk for relapse. It helps keep the newly sober alcoholic/addict engaged in recovery activities, which reduces probability of relapse. Additionally, continued behavioral change is necessary for sustained benefit.
Aftercare is very important for a number of reasons. One of the main reasons is that it increases the probability of sustained recovery. While there is no predetermined length of treatment, research has shown that the longer the engagement in some level of continuing care, the better the treatment outcomes. Many people drop out of continuing care prematurely. Statistically only about one in five actually go on to continuing care after inpatient treatment. Of those who go to inpatient treatment, sixty percent have been to inpatient treatment at least once before.
The majority of people who complete treatment will relapse within the year, 80% of whom will do so in the first 90 days after discharge. Fifty percent of those who relapse will do so in the first 30 days after discharge. Of the people who follow up with AA without aftercare, 50 % will stop going to meetings within the first 90 days. People in recovery are not considered to be in sustained recovery until about four or five years of sobriety. The low follow through rate for continuing care is strongly correlated with the high rate of relapse after inpatient treatment.
By Peggy L. Ferguson, Ph.D.
I am often asked for referrals for marriage and family therapists that also work with addiction. These requests come from all parts of the country or even from other parts of the world. While I do not have the contact resources to make those recommendations, there are some resources available to help you find an appropriate counselor or therapist--wherever you are.
Although there are a number of therapist referral sites online, I don't know much about them. I would tend to shy away from sites where therapists have to pay to be listed, because your choices will be small. You need to know what kind of therapist you need to best be able to use a therapist finder service. Things to take into consideration are:
1) The type of sessions you need - individual, family, marital, or group,
2) The types of issues that are most important to deal with - marital, mental health, addiction, or a combination (i.e., addicted spouse, marital problems),
3) The qualifications of therapists that would provide the best fit for your situation (i.e., mental health - possibly psychologist or licensed professional counselor, or other licensed professionals according to their state statutes on scope of practice).
A good example of finding the appropriate fit would be to look for a professional who is licensed as a marriage and family therapist and as an alcohol/drug counselor for dealing with addiction in a marriage).
Once you have a good idea about the kind of help you need, follow these steps to use a therapist referral service:
1) Go to your therapist referral service such as the one on Psychology Today's website,
2) Click on "find a therapist" or something similar that will achieve the same results,
3) Search your location,
4) Look for a professional that has the kinds of credentials you are looking for.
There are psychiatrists, psychologists, clinical social workers, licensed professional counselors, licensed marriage and family therapists, licensed alcoholism/drug counselors.
Other ways to find an appropriate referral is to ask friends and colleagues. Ask people at church or at work for a recommendation for a good therapist. If you are attending AA or some other 12 step group, ask the people in the meetings. They know who the best therapists are. You can also call licensing boards or go to their websites and look for professionals according to your location.
Once you have some names and phone numbers, call them. Ask them questions about their services. Such questions might include their specialty, costs, types of insurance they take (if any), typical frequency of sessions according to your issues (i.e. mild depression), what kind of therapeutic approaches they use (i.e. Cognitive behavioral therapy, etc.), specialty population that they work with (i.e., seniors, adolescents, adults, alcoholics/addicts, right-handed artists, etc.). If you get voice mail, leave a message for them to return your call. Make sure that you speak slowly and distinctly when you leave your name and number, so that they can call you back. People often assume that a counselor has simply chosen not to return their call, when in fact, the message left on the machine was not understandable.
Make appointments. Try some out. Make sure that they are interested in your goals for therapy and that you have some level of comfort with them. If they don't seem to fit after a few sessions, try someone else. The number one factor in successful outcomes for therapy is the relationship between the therapist and the patient/client.
8 Really Good Reasons You Need To Be Involved in Your Family Member's Addiction Treatment
By Peggy L. Ferguson, Ph.D.
Why should family members be involved in the treatment process of their alcoholic/addicted family member? Let me count the ways. The benefits of family treatment could go on and on, but here are eight good reasons.
1. You learn that you are not alone. Family dynamics of addiction and recovery are pretty predictable. As the disease progresses for the addict, they, as well as their kin become more and more isolated. Shame also isolates and keeps hurting band of survivors silent about the disease. Spouses and parents may also have a compulsion to keep the secret in order to protect the addict from consequences that could affect the whole clan (i.e., financially, career, legal, etc.). Because the dynamics of addiction are played out in silence and isolation, each person feels that they alone, have experienced the shame, guilt, hurt, sadness, loneliness, compulsion to take control and doubt about their own sanity, that comes with addiction.
2. You have an opportunity to recover from your own pain. No one escapes from an alcoholic system unscathed. It does not happen. Any close collection of people that that has an addicted member has pain. While the relatives of the addict are focused on the afflicted's pain and survival, they tend to ignore, down-play, or minimize their own pain. They are often oblivious to the negative effects on their own lives. They are negatively affected not only by the behavior of the addict, but by their own attempts to cope and problem solve.
3. You have an opportunity to make decisions based on strength rather than fear and desperation. The chaotic environment of the alcoholic home creates an acute stress reaction in all residents of the home. Each household member tends to get stuck in "survival mode". Decision making often occurs in the context of identifying the least damaging or the least scary options. Relatives often see themselves between the hard place and the rock, with no attractive alternatives. In treatment, spouses and parents are able to identify alternatives previously not considered and to begin to make choices based on knowledge rather than emotion.
4. You get to find yourself again. Spouses often complain that they have lost themselves in the process of their significant other's addiction. They find that they have become people that they not only never intended to be, but have become people that they do not like. They often come to realize that they have acted outside their own value system, by lying, manipulating, and shaming the addict to get them to change. In treatment, these spouses have an opportunity to learn new ways to communicate and problem solve with their addicted significant others.
5. You get to learn what is and is not your responsibility. In the treatment process, you get to learn how to let go of that which is not yours to do. You have an opportunity to learn to be assertive and choose your own activities. You become empowered to take responsibility for your own behavior while allowing others the dignity to be responsible for their behavior. Spouses often come to identify that they have been compelled to "parent" their addicted spouse during active addiciton. One of the most freeing aspects of family treatment is learning how to let of that.
6. You get to learn about alcoholism and other drug addictions. Most people buy into some antiquated ideas, myths, and stereotypes about alcoholics and addicts. Treatment dispels those myths. When family members go to "Family Week", they get to meet folks from all walks of life-brilliant, creative, charming people who are captains of industry, lawyers, doctors, mechanics, artists, housepainters, entrepreneurs-who happen to also be alcoholics/addicts. Addiction is no respecter of person or position. Old notions of who is and who isn't alcoholic/addicted will be challenged. Incorrect information that you may have learned from your family of origin (or others) about addiction being a "choice", a "character problem", or a "moral dilemma" will be replaced with factual data from the current knowledge base. You will have an opportunity to learn about the family dynamics of addiction and recovery so that you will know some of what to expect in early recovery. You will come to know and accept that your loved one's addiction is not your fault and that you cannot make them relapse. Principles of cross-addiction, a very important concept for continuing recovery is reviewed. You should also leave treatment armed with knowledge about the symptoms and process of relapse. This is crucial information to have.
7. You will learn a new language. Significant others entering a treatment program for "Family Week" often remark that there seems to be a common language being spoken in treatment, and that they feel like the "uninitiated". A common recovery language is helpful for the addict and the family, so that they can better understand each other. Otherwise, family members often feel left behind, or like they are on the "outside, looking in".
8. You will also have an opportunity to learn about principles of family dynamics and qualities of family systems that operate to work against continuing recovery. You will come to understand how system processes and characteristics that evolve over time to incorporate the illness into the balance and functioning of that system, also operate to keep things the same in recovery. If only one person in the system gets help, it can be difficult for the recovering person to maintain their positive changes in the midst of the old family rules, roles, and established patterns.
Not only is participation of significant others in addiction rehab important for the recovery of the addict and the family members, most family members leave the treatment center feeling blessed that they had an opportunity to experience the learning and healing process afforded them.
Family Dynamics of Addiction and Recovery: 12 Do's and Don'ts For the Family While the Alcoholic Is in Rehab
By Peggy L. Ferguson, Ph.D.
Your significant other finally went to rehab. With all the events leading up to his agreeing to go to treatment, it may feel like a let-down. You may have breathed a big sigh of relief as you drove away from the airport or the treatment center after dropping him or her off. You may feel hope. You may still be waiting for the other shoe to drop. There may be a brief period where you don't feel anything before you start becoming concerned about what you are supposed to be doing now.
You may be asking yourself and others what you should be doing to support your significant other while they are in treatment. Here are some do's and don'ts for family members:
1. Call them if they are allowed phone calls. Keep it short and simple. Call him at the appropriate times. Don't sit by the phone waiting for him/her to call you. Live your life. Don't demand that he call you daily.
2. Send cards and letters.
3. When you do talk to him or her, don't take everything that he says at face value. Emotions are a roller coaster ride during treatment and one minute he may sound like the is in a major crisis and the next, everything is fine. Don't jump right in and tell him how to fix it. If you become concerned about his mental health, call the counselor.
4. When you talk to him on the phone and he tells you what he learned today in treatment, resist the urge to point out that you have been telling him that for ten years.
5. Reassure your addicted family member that you love him or her and that you are supportive of their recovery efforts. Let them be responsible for their own recovery. If they talk about cravings, don't panic, it comes with the territory and it is not something that you have to take care of for them.
6. Don't call the counselor to dictate the patient's treatment plan to the treatment team. They can handle that without your supervision. Do tell the counselor about concerns that you may have. Your counselor may be able to address some of your concerns and help you rest a little easier. Answer any questions that your counselor may have about the patient's history honestly.
7. If you have not already done so, problem solve with the alcoholic about what to tell significant others about where he is and what is going on. If your alcoholic/addict wants to do the telling, let him.
8. Handle as many of the logistical living issues by yourself as you can. But don't lie to protect the recovering person from any crisis that may be occurring at home.
9. Save the relationship problem solving until you can get to family week. You will learn new communication and problem solving skills while you are there. You will be more likely to begin to break through old destructive patterns that prevent you from actually resolving problems and issues.
10. Don't get too discouraged if they do not seem to be "getting it" as fast and as far as you would like for your own piece of mind. Keep your expectations realistic. Some behaviors and characteristics may take a long time to change.
11. When you get to family week, do not snoop through his recovery materials and written homework. He will share with you what he is comfortable with and in his own time.
12. Do start attending AlAnon and/or counseling.
Family Dynamics of Addiction and Recovery -
Treatment For Spouses and Other Family Members
By Peggy L. Ferguson, Ph.D.
One of the most frequent questions that I hear from family members is, “Why do I need to be in counseling, when she is the alcoholic/addict? The family members that do come into treatment willingly and eagerly at the beginning are most often motivated to “help” the addict. The idea that spouses and other kin need help for their own issues often feels like an insult initially.
Non-addicted loved ones need their own help because they are negatively affected by the disease in several ways. Addiction runs through generations in families. Spouses of alcoholics/addicts often come from alcoholic or otherwise addicted families of origin. This fact points out that the non-addicted spouse was affected by the disease of alcoholism before she married the alcoholic. Addiction in your family of origin increases the probability that you will marry an alcoholic. Thus addiction influences you to marry into another addiction environment. The spouse brought her own addiction-related issues into the marriage. When you get treatment for yourself, you get to identify and work through your own issues.
Non-addicted loved ones always experience pain and suffering in the midst of addiction. To deal with the pain, they develop survival behavior that gets solidified into stereotypical roles within the family. The interaction of the roles creates the syndrome that helps keep the disease in place.
Part of the syndrome is enabling. An example of enabling is the ongoing struggle that the addict and the spouse get into over the chemical or disease. Focusing on this struggle enables the addict to perceive this struggle as “the struggle”, rather than coming face to face with his own internal battle with the disease. Spouses and other relatives keep trying harder and harder to solve the problem of the addiction. Their efforts get more and more compulsive. They get sicker emotionally, physically, and spiritually-just like the addict.
One of the empowering events that happen in treatment with non-addicted relatives, especially spouses and parents, is that they learn that they did not cause the addiction, and that their efforts to fix it is not working and will not work in the future. When you really understand that it’s not your fault, that you didn’t cause it, that you can’t control someone else’s behavior and that you can’t cure their addiction, you can once again focus on the things in your life that you do have power over – you.
Additionally, since you are not minutely involved in trying to solve each tiny piece of an addict’s addiction problems, you can step back and observe, then seize an opportunity (usually a crisis), to help your significant other find recovery. If you get help and find recovery, your chemically dependent significant other is extremely more likely to find recovery, and to stay sober after treatment.
In recovery for yourself, you learn about the legacy of addiction. There is also a “legacy of recovery”. Because addiction is a family disease with addiction being passed down generation after generation, your being in recovery will have a positive impact on future generations as they find themselves with addiction and seek recovery for it. This is the legacy of recovery. If one person finds recovery in a family, it increases the likelihood that others in that family will too. Whole families can recover, beginning with one brave, resolute person.

