Switch to Accessible Site
Hands Holding Plant
Peggy L. Ferguson, Ph.D.Licensed Marriage/Family TherapistLicensed Alcohol/Drug Counselor405-707-9600/ peggyferguson@peggyferguson.com

Recovery Solutions for Families With Addiction Articles

Peggy L. Ferguson, Ph.D.
Licensed Marriage/Family Therapist
Licensed Alcohol/Drug Counselor

Articles on
Recovery Solutions For Families With Addiction
by Peggy L. Ferguson, Ph.D., Stillwater, OK

To access the articles, just click on the title of the article. It will open in a separate pdf document that can be saved to your computer and/or printed off.  All articles are copyrighted.  We welcome you to use them for your own information and to share them with others as long as you cite my authorship,provide website information/link, and do not edit them.

Table of Contents

Eliminating Counter-Productive Behavior

Stopping the Enabling

New:  You Can Stop the Enabling Despite The Emotional Blackmail

14 Enabling Behaviors for Family Members To Quit Now

Stop the Tag Team Enabling: Helping Your Family Member Find Recovery

Using the "Enabling Worksheet" To Identify Your Enabling Behavior, the Motivation Behind It, and How it Harms You

The Enabling Worksheet

Help!  My Addict is Coming Home From Treatment.  Helping vs. Enabling

Intervention and Utilizing a Crisis to Offer Help

Seven Steps to An Alcohol or Drug Intervention on Your Adult Loved One

Preparing For An Alcohol or Drug Intervention

The Alcoholic Went to Rehab, Now What?

Twelve Do's and Don'ts for the Family While the Alcoholic is In Rehab

Family Member Self Care and Recovery

New:  What Does Recovery From Codependency Look Like?

New:  Communication in Addiction Recovery –Twelve Guidelines For Family Feelings Meetings

Post-treatment Family Dynamics of Recovery:  Empower Your Recovery By Being Responsible to Your Addict

Establishing Interdependent Relationships and Learning to Be Healthy

Boundaries, Bottom Lines, and Threats: Knowing the Difference Can Empower Family Member Recovery

Boundaries As  A Recovery Concept

Letting Go

How to Let Go to Regain Your Peace of Mind

Detachment:  How the Family Can Be Alright When the Addict is Still Using

Relapse in One Member Doesn't Mean Relapse for the Whole Family

Addiction: Relapse and the Family

Misc. and General Articles

Basic Information on Family Dynamics of Addiction and Recovery


What Does Recovery From Codependency Look Like?

By Peggy L. Ferguson, Ph.D.

Recovery from "codependency" is a developmental process that occurs over time.  Recovery is not a finite event, but rather an ongoing evolutionary process.  People who identify themselves as "codependent" know what they are trying to eliminate and change in their lives, but they may not be so sure about what healthy looks like from a codependent's frame of reference. 

Although there are as many definitions of "codependency" as there people who have written about it since the l980s, every definition I have ever come across has involved "dependency" as a major area of concern.  Early on, codependency was described as the family member's dependence on the alcoholism, like the alcoholic dependence on alcohol.  The definition has continued to evolve over time, and it has come to be used to define the maladaptive dependence on people and things outside of self, to provide a sense of identity, self-esteem and purpose.  To read the rest of the article, follow this link:  What Does Recovery From Codependency Look Like?



Communication in Addiction Recovery –

Twelve Guidelines For Family Feelings Meetings

By Peggy L. Ferguson, Ph.D.


                Families just don't know what to do with themselves when the designated alcoholic or addict gets sober. The first year of recovery is a time of confusion, joy, fear, anger, sadness, happiness-in short a full range of emotion. Most families don't what know to expect in that first year. They know the addict has gotten sober and that something has changed in the system. They know, too, that they are expected to change. But they may not be sure how they are supposed to be changing and what they are supposed to be doing differently.  
                Before treatment and recovery, there were "Don't Trust, Don't Talk, Don't Feel" rules. Now, it seems that they are being encouraged by everyone to talk about feelings. Spouses may not trust the recovering alcoholic/addict with their feelings. They may be concerned that their feelings will be used against them. They may expect old behavior from the addict. Children will also have "trust issues", but they may not have even learned how to identify their feelings. They may have experienced the other parent making excuses for the addict when they tried to say how they felt about the drunken parent's behavior. They may also be fearful of the reactions to their feelings by one or both parents.    To read the rest of this article, follow this link:
Communication in Addiction Recovery –Twelve Guidelines For Family Feelings Meetings


Family feelings meetings What Does Recovery From Codependency Look Like?  Codependent  Family Dynamics of Addiction and Recovery  Addiction Relapse and the Family  Codependent Recovery  Detachment  Boundaries as a Recovery Concept How to Let Go  How to Detach With Love  What To Do While The Addict is in Treatment Codependent Behavior  enabling worksheet  Stop Enabling  Emotional Blackmail  Tag Team Enabling  Stop the Enabling  Emotional Detachment  Codependent and More  Codependent relationships  Enabling Behavior 

My ebooks and other informational/educational products are available
for purchase on my Services Provided page.

Copyright: Peggy L. Ferguson, Ph.D., 116 W. 7th, Suite 211, Stillwater, OK 74074, phone 405-707-9600, fax 405-707-9601, email peggyferguson@hotmail.com, http://www.peggyferguson..com


Serving Stillwater (74074, 74075, 74076), Perry (73077), Perkins (74059), Cushing (74023), Pawnee (74058), Guthrie (73044), Ponca City (74601, 74602, 74604), Morrison (73061), and other local communities.

Providing services for Alcoholism, Drug Addiction, Chemical Dependency, Sex Addiction, Mental Health Issues, Depression, Anxiety, Stress Management, Addiction Recovery, Drug Abuse, Spouse of sex addict, Relapse prevention, Drug cravings, Family Business Issues, Couple Money Issues, Co-dependency, Adult Children of Alcoholism Issues, Cross-addiction, Co-occurring disorders, marital family therapy, marriage family counseling, step-parenting, step-family issues, couple money issues, grief, mid-life issues, infidelity.  Providing individual, group, marriage, family, and couples sessions.  Providing professional supervision and training and consultation services.

Schedule Appointment

Start your new path in life and be the change today!

Click Here
Helpful Forms

Click here to view and print forms for your appointment.

Click Here