Peggy L. Ferguson, Ph.D.
Licensed Marriage/Family Therapist
Licensed Alcohol/Drug Counselor
405-707-9600
peggyferguson@hotmail.com
http://www.peggyferguson.com

Table of Contents

Stopping the Enabling

New:  You Can Stop the Enabling Despite The Emotional Blackmail


14 Enabling Behaviors for Family Members To Quit Now

Stop the Tag Team Enabling: Helping Your Family Member Find Recovery

Using the "Enabling Worksheet" To Identify Your Enabling Behavior, the Motivation Behind It, and How it Harms You

The Enabling Worksheet

Help!  My Addict is Coming Home From Treatment.  Helping vs. Enabling


Intervention and Utilizing a Crisis to Offer Help

Seven Steps to An Alcohol or Drug Intervention on Your Adult Loved One

Preparing For An Alcohol or Drug Intervention

The Alcoholic Went to Rehab, Now What?

Twelve Do's and Don'ts for the Family While the Alcoholic is In Rehab


Family Member Self Care and Recovery

New:  Communication in Addiction Recovery –Twelve Guidelines For Family Feelings Meetings

Post-treatment Family Dynamics of Recovery:  Empower Your Recovery By Being Responsible to Your Addict

Establishing Interdependent Relationships and Learning to Be Healthy

Boundaries, Bottom Lines, and Threats: Knowing the Difference Can Empower Family Member Recovery

Boundaries As  A Recovery Concept



Letting Go

How to Let Go to Regain Your Peace of Mind

Detachment:  How the Family Can Be Alright When the Addict is Still Using


Relapse in One Member Doesn't Mean Relapse for the Whole Family

Addiction: Relapse and the Family



Misc. and General Articles

Basic Information on Family Dynamics of Addiction and Recovery

 

Communication in Addiction Recovery –

Twelve Guidelines For Family Feelings Meetings

By Peggy L. Ferguson, Ph.D.

 

                Families just don't know what to do with themselves when the designated alcoholic or addict gets sober. The first year of recovery is a time of confusion, joy, fear, anger, sadness, happiness-in short a full range of emotion. Most families don't what know to expect in that first year. They know the addict has gotten sober and that something has changed in the system. They know, too, that they are expected to change. But they may not be sure how they are supposed to be changing and what they are supposed to be doing differently.  
 
                Before treatment and recovery, there were "Don't Trust, Don't Talk, Don't Feel" rules. Now, it seems that they are being encouraged by everyone to talk about feelings. Spouses may not trust the recovering alcoholic/addict with their feelings. They may be concerned that their feelings will be used against them. They may expect old behavior from the addict. Children will also have "trust issues", but they may not have even learned how to identify their feelings. They may have experienced the other parent making excuses for the addict when they tried to say how they felt about the drunken parent's behavior. They may also be fearful of the reactions to their feelings by one or both parents.    To read the rest of this article, follow this link:  Communication in Addiction Recovery –Twelve Guidelines For Family Feelings Meetings

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Copyright: Peggy L. Ferguson, Ph.D., 116 W. 7^th, Suite 211, Stillwater, OK 74074, phone 405-707-9600, fax 405-707-9601, email peggyferguson@hotmail.com, http://www.peggyferguson..com

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Serving Stillwater (74074, 74075, 74076), Perry (73077), Perkins (74059), Cushing (74023), Pawnee (74058), Guthrie (73044), Ponca City (74601, 74602, 74604), Morrison (73061), and other local communities.

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Providing services for Alcoholism, Drug Addiction, Chemical Dependency, Sex Addiction, Mental Health Issues, Depression, Anxiety, Stress Management, Addiction Recovery, Drug Abuse, Spouse of sex addict, Relapse prevention, Drug cravings, Family Business Issues, Couple Money Issues, Co-dependency, Adult Children of Alcoholism Issues, Cross-addiction, Co-occurring disorders, marital family therapy, marriage family counseling, step-parenting, step-family issues, couple money issues, grief, mid-life issues, infidelity.  Providing individual, group, marriage, family, and couples sessions.  Providing professional supervision and training and consultation services.